I take it that most men show up at their wedding when they're told wearing what they're told. I hadn't occurred to me to not be involved in the planning, so I have been. Rebekah has been doing most of the research, but when it comes down to the final decision, she asks for my input. Perhaps it's been a bit more stressful for her (having to consider my input), but I've really enjoyed being a part of the process.
Since we have a lot to do in such a short time, we work almost every day on wedding plans. Next Tuesday, we start ballroom dance lessons. On Wednesdays, we meet with a pastor for premarital counseling. It doesn't leave a lot of time to do personal things, but it's as if we're being forced to mature into the people we'll need to be for our marriage to work.
Think about it like this: when you're on your own, your biggest responsibility is yourself, but when you're married, your biggest responsibility is someone else! Most people would fail miserably making that transition on the day they get married without some preparation. Putting a wedding together is loads of work. It took us about a month just to get all the addresses for the invitations together. Creating our wedding registry was the most intense shopping I've ever done. If I were to little things go undone, they'd become overwhelming and I'd be a stressed-out loony. However, by working on these things bit-by-bit, they're manageable. So, simply by helping to plan our marriage, I'm becoming more mature and responsible. Bonus!
